Getting the Grommets Op
I posted back in June “Don’t say what, say pardon” about the news that Lil H had glue ear. Hurray, he wasn’t ignoring me after all! Big Boo, he has to have an operation. I’m writing this post so if you’re where I was back in June you will hopefully get an idea as to what actually happens, some reassurance that everything will be OK, that someone else felt the same and some ideas to prepare you and your child.
The treatment for glue ear is very effective, its grommets, tiny plastic tubes fitted into the eardrum, these tubes lets air pass in and out of the ear, sounds simple doesn’t it. I nodded as the consultant explained. I think I carried on nodding as he said “I do my surgeries on a Thursday and yes I can fit H in next Thursday no problem, he’ll be a day patient, its a general anaesthetic but you should be home mid afternoon” I’m still nodding at this point but actually all I can now see in my head is my 4 year old dead in an operating theatre. Sorry, but that’s how my brain works – it runs past everything that’s logical, likely and reasonable to the worst possible most unlikely case scenario and there I will worry, stress, fret and not sleep until, well, none of that has happened and we are back at home. Alive. I hate my brain at times like this.
I’m his Mummy and I have to be the brave one for Lil’ H to show him how to be brave. Practical Mummy is on autopilot and overdrive as his surgery is less than a week away*. The reality is the pragmatic me makes a plan, I do plans really well and I prepare my little boy, I didn’t say too much, he’s only four years old. We read Topsy and Tim: Go to Hospital
I kept everything very light I told him a doctor would give put some magic cream on his hand and it would feel cold. I explained we’d have to go to the theatre and I showed him pictures online of surgeons in masks, so he wasn’t phased. How did anyone ever live before google? I have no idea! I hadn’t mentioned he’d have to have his blood pressure taken and a clip put on his finger to take his pulse, he’d be weighed and measured and get a nice juicy dose of liquid paracetamol and ibuprofen orally by syringe (he’s a pro at this and self served!) This is what happened and he took it in his stride.
It was quickly time to go to theatre, he’d been nil by mouth since teatime the previous day and bless him hadn’t so much as mentioned it. We walked down to theatre with the nurse just before 10am. Lil H thought the automatic sliding doors were just like those on the Millennium Falcon on Star Wars so this was already brilliant in his 4 year old eyes! The team were just lovely and quickly everything was ready for Lil H to have his cannula put in his hand. Even with magic cream I knew this was going to be uncomfortable but with H so calm and relaxed he had this done awake, he kept looking at me and I knew it had gone in because his face flushed red. My throat instantly dried out. Inside I knew we were past the point of no return. I had no voice, please don’t anybody ask me anything and whilst I’d lost it inside I had to keep smiling, holding and stroking his other hand.
He wanted to see over the nurse to see his hand which now had a cannula in, the nurse reminded him about the time Luke Skywalker had to have a new hand, perfect distraction, done! Ooh and a teddy bear plaster as a finishing touch – 4 year olds love plasters the bigger the better. He didn’t cry, cannula was in, done in a moment. He lay back on the bed as I sat on the bed next to him, a mask with apparently strawberry smelling gas was placed near his face and the anaesthetic was injected. Just a matter of seconds, his eyes drooped, then rolled back and he was asleep, but beyond sleep, past deep asleep to truly unconscious. I kissed him and left. He went into theatre.
I went to the coffee machine and headed back to his room. I sat with a purpose bought copy of Grazia and a Cadburys flake. My mind did not move from fashion, celebrity gossip and chocolate I wouldn’t let it. I somehow had managed to freeze the thinking part of my brain. It was like until I got him back I couldn’t allow myself to think about what was actually happening. Then the nurse came to take me up to him in recovery he was out, everything had gone well, he was alive. Cancel the last weeks worth pointless worrying, stressing, fretting, not sleeping and brave facing – what a total waste of time and energy that was!
When I got to him he was awake having a cuddle with a nurse, disorientated, not crying, but groggy, confused, groany, pretty out of it. He had a one or two patches of blood on his PJ top, you can see it in the photo’s its not much at all but I wasn’t expecting to see any, no idea why but I wasn’t, now its obvious with such tiny ears there may be a little but just a heads up – there may be blood. Physically he didn’t really know what to do with himself, he was thrashing about quite a bit and keeping him still and calm was tricky – cue the portable DVD player from the car. I thought he’d be zonked by the anaesthetic and snooze all afternoon but he never slept again until bedtime. Within about half an hour of coming round Lil H asked for the volume on the DVD player to be turned down “its too loud mummy” this was set at his pre-op hearing level, so the procedure had obviously been totally successful. He and I both had a lovely lunch, including an ice lolly for the very brave Lil’ H. After lunch, the once over from the consultants and a well earned certificate for bravery we were off home just after 2pm. As we left the hospital Lil H asked “Mummy can I have another operation tomorrow today has been brilliant”. Lil H was an absolute star, hand on heart he didn’t shed a tear. I can’t say the same for me but I did keep mine out of sight – just between me and Mr Sauv Blanc!
This isn’t a sponsored post in anyway this is just how it was and I am genuinely so very grateful to Mr Birzgalis and his team at The Alexandra Hospital that took such great care, and continue to care for, Lil’ H and his Lil’ lugs!
If you are wondering how long the actual op took, we arrived at the hospital about 7:15am, by 8am H was magic creamed up by consultant and anaethestist rounds were around 9am he was in the pre-op anaesthetic theatre just before 10am for about 10-15 minutes and from kissing him goodbye to getting him back took about 40 minutes. It felt a lot longer but it wasn’t only 45 minutes. We left the hospital just after 2pm.
* It was less than a week away because I have BUPA private healthcare for the children, we’ve never needed to use the policy, it has been one of those annual costs that every year I um and ah over but last year I had some consultancy work at the time when the renewal came around so it got renewed. In hindsight, best decision ever, normally problems arise shortly after we don’t renew policies – law of sod and all that. As it happened this time the fate smiled on us and we were able to go from GP referral to consultant and diasnosis in three days and less than a week later Lil H had the required grommets operation and his hearing was literally cured on waking up.
Category: Personal & Family | Tags: Cheadle, first visit to hospital, Grommets op, Lil' H, Mr Birzgalis, surgery for pre-schoolers, the alexandra hospital 17 comments »
September 28th, 2011 at 8:16 pm
A wonderful blog entry, its fantastic to hear the parents’ side of the whole experience. You really should contact the NDCS (National Deaf Children’s Society) about writing about your experience for them. It would really help other parents to know what to expect when they child needs grommets.
September 28th, 2011 at 8:18 pm
Beautifully written and very touching. So pleased it all went well.
I thought I was in the minority in terms of my brain catastrophising everything concerning my 4 year old. I even asked the dr if constant anxiety about petty situations concerning your children is normal. His reply was that even though his children are over 18, he still looks out of the window in the morning to check their cars are outside if they’ve been out the night before.
For me even a trip to fed the ducks can make my brain fast forward to ensuring Edie doesn’t fall in the lake and ……..! So I totally understand why you’ve spent days and days fretting and yes it’s bloody exhausting.
Get well wishes to Lil H. x
September 29th, 2011 at 10:20 am
I can’t decide who was the bravest, H or you. Well done to you both. I hope everything has settled down for him and he is hearing the benefit?
When A was little she had to have kidney scans after having die injected into her hands. The nurses had to hold me up, she was completely unphazed. I salute your switching off ability – I just faint. x
September 29th, 2011 at 10:22 am
A fantastic and very brave post. I know it wasn’t the easiest you’ve ever written. I’m so glad everything turned out ok x
September 30th, 2011 at 9:01 am
Well done you for remaining so calm I remember when my H had to have blood taken as they thought she may need emergency surgery I was a mess, even when she had her scan done! Your boy sounds like a very brave little boy and that certificate was well earned! My daughter is deaf in one ear and we have been warned of glue ear. So this post is great in the fact I know what to expect if that happens! So thank you x
October 11th, 2011 at 8:32 am
What a very well written story – I remember getting my first set of grommets (on my seventh birthday) and then realising when I came out of theatre that I could hear my new watch ticking and I can remember travelling home from the hospital on the train was very scary as it was so noisy! Hope this solves his problem and he grows out of the glue ear very soon.
October 11th, 2011 at 7:18 pm
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October 11th, 2011 at 7:52 pm
My eldest has had to have 2 ops over the last 4 years and both times the staff and hospital that he was at where fantastic! Glad he’s ok.
October 12th, 2011 at 8:18 am
My brain works just like yours. General anaesthetic is a terrifying thought and it’s impossible not to worry. I was on autopilot until J came round from his. I’m so, so pleased it all went well. And your little man sounds like an absolute champion x
October 12th, 2011 at 9:18 pm
I’m so pleased all went well. I don’t think you are alone in your thinking about your fears for your little one, when it comes to your children you always think of the worse case
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November 3rd, 2011 at 2:59 pm
Thanks so much for sharing. Weeped throughout. Waiting to hear if my 22 month old needs the op.
February 29th, 2012 at 9:37 pm
I’ve just seen this post but it pretty much sums up the same experience I had with my 4yo last July when he had grommets put in. You did very well to record it all (I felt so nervous!). I was surprised with how quickly it took and how calm my little one was by it all. The staff were amazing (at Nottingham Queen’s Medical Centre on the NHS). You can’t help but worry about it but it really is such a routine procedure that hospitals do all the time there really is no need. I’m still hoping he doesn’t need to have another set in though
February 29th, 2012 at 9:59 pm
So pleased he’s ok and all is well. I went through L being hospital last year and it was the worst feeling in the world. Good call with the insurance, sounds like it was worth it xx
March 2nd, 2012 at 10:12 pm
Thank you so much for sharing your story. -
We have just had our 20 month little boy tested today and they have diagnosed him as completely deaf in both ears due to glue ear and needing grommets, so I hope the operation can come quickly and that we see the same wonderful results that you all have!
I’m much more calm about it all after reading your account of the day – it’s great to have an understanding of what to expect so thank you so much it’s really helped!
xx
September 19th, 2012 at 4:29 pm
Hi, I just wanted to say thank you for posting about your experience – my 5 yr old son is having the grommet op tomorrow morning and it’s so reassuring to know that I’m not the only one who’s paralysed with fear of things going wrong – likewise I will be very glad when my son is back in the recovery room and alive, safe and well
Your words have really helped, thank you so much x
October 13th, 2012 at 12:45 am
My 5 year old was treated at the Alexandra hospital 1st time at the age of 2 for a and g’s 2nd time at the age of 4 (2nd lot of grommets) and will probably need a 3rd set at some point. Our experience was very similar to yours and this op made such a difference to my son. They are wonderful people and my sons consultant mr Sheehan listened to me when others didn’t. Grommets make such a difference to a child with glue ear, my son was a different boy afterward – my eldest son also had 2 sets. I hope your little continues to do well. Your blog made me shed a tear or 3, taking a child in for an op is scary stuff but also because the result of this little op is so huge. Thank you so much for writing it. X
December 4th, 2012 at 12:08 pm
Thank you so much for this . Our little girl age 4 is on Mr Sheehan’s waiting list and scheduled to have her operation- grommets and possible adenoid removal- on January 12th at The Alexandra Hospital in Cheadle. Like you all I can picture and think about us my daughter not waking up
And I’m a trained nurse!!!!!
I have been worrying about preparing her for surgery, what to say and what to do. Your experience will certainly help- and I feel much more positive.