My Unsaid
There are things I’d like to say. I’m straight forward and say it how it is but I do choose my battles. My mother always says to have a friend you have to close one eye, to have a good friend close both. With this in my mind I have ended up stewing a bit.
I’m frustrated at the moment. Nothing massive, in fact I can’t put my finger on it probably because it’s loads of small “not really important” things individually but all together they are making me grumpy. I feel like I’m inwardly rolling my eyes, tutting or swearing constantly. I feel a bit let down, a bit unappreciated, a bit overlooked, a bit put upon, a bit like I’m tolerating more than I should have to.
It’s stifling me, my blogging, my involvement on Twitter and my enthusiasm overall. I feel a bit like a walking sigh wearing a “FFS are you having a laugh” T-shirt! Yeah exactly, who wants to hang out with her, not me that’s for sure. So with CybHer just two sleeps away I thought I’d do myself a favour, be honest and get it all off my chest. Then I can be reinspired at CybHer and if I’m not maybe my blogging days and / or Cheshire Mum has come to a natural end.
So here in less than 140 characters are the things I need to vent, in no particular order, to a whole myriad of people about a whole variety of “not really important” things …
- You’re a crap friend
- You never call me unless you want something
- You’ve hurt my feelings
- I don’t work for free, my mortgage company isn’t cool with IOU’s
- I’m sure you would like me to tell my readers, FB friends, Twitter followers. But why? Why should I?
- I’m a blogger I’m not short of PR contacts thanks for the offer of an intro to your friend in PR
- I don’t live in London (anymore)
- I’ve worked it marketing for over 15 years, I get it ok!
- Don’t email for something, ask how I am just to get what you want & when I say not great don’t reply
- I know I said its OK, the truth is that it is not OK or fine and it makes me angry
- I didn’t have to invite you, but I did go to the effort so the least you could do is acknowledge the invite
- I was being kind, ignoring me hurts my feelings
- I think your behaviour is rude
- If your children have a bug don’t invite us to play date we don’t want to share
- Sorry, committees are not for me thanks but not thanks
- Don’t ask for advice if you’re not going to listen I do not need to practice speaking
- No I don’t want to join your affiliate programme
- No I don’t have a PPI claim to make STOP CALLING ME!
- No I’ve not been injured in an accident STOP TEXTING ME!
- I don’t like you and don’t want to be friends
- You don’t get me or my life
- You don’t understand my pressures
- It’s not my fault you’re not pregnant
- I resent you making me feel guilty about being a working parent
- I’m sorry you don’t understand our commitments but it doesn’t change them
- You are not busier than me, I am not busier than you, the busy Olympics are in your head
- I would appreciate someone else organising something for once
- It would make my life easier if you did it yourself
- How about you book it this time?
- You make my life difficult so I am making my life without you in it
- You still owe me twenty quid
- I know it’s easier to ask me but google is free and the answer is there
- I need you to respect my other commitments
- I am pissed off that I’ve dropped of the dieting wagon
- I hate my body right now
Rant over! Phew! Feels better! Anyone else silently seething?! Don’t stay schtum come on pop your frustration in a comment …
Category: Personal & Family | Tags: frustration, getting it off my chest, Rant, vent 14 comments »
May 10th, 2012 at 7:35 pm
can def relate to a lot of what you have written there, hope you feel better now that it’s written down x
May 10th, 2012 at 7:44 pm
Big massive hugs to you mrs. And even if you are wearing a miserable sign at Cybher I’ll still be like an excited school girl meeting you!
Ignore them, stuff them & f*ck em!
Hope that helps. Probably not, but love ya long time x
May 10th, 2012 at 7:46 pm
@Fran Thank you – I feel cleansed by hitting publish, a whole load let go of! x
May 10th, 2012 at 7:47 pm
@Kate – it has helped immensely to get it off my chest, I am freed from my miserableness and ready to party @CybHer … with you! x
May 10th, 2012 at 7:54 pm
Hope you feel better now it’s written down. I can totally relate to so many things you’ve said xx
May 10th, 2012 at 8:01 pm
Thanks Emma @ Mummy Musings – I do, recommend it! x
May 10th, 2012 at 8:41 pm
Big hugs.
Ditto most of the above.
Do I owe you £20? If so, sorry.
Panacea, coffee, soon?
M x
May 10th, 2012 at 8:44 pm
i just spit tea at the “Injured in an accident” one! I am so gullible, every time I get one of those texts, I am like “wait, was I in an accident I don’t remember”.
Man, I need more sleep.
May 10th, 2012 at 10:01 pm
Oh dear, I hope you feel a bit brighter soon.
On the upside though, you have given me a great gift. “The Busy Olympics are in your head.” I am TOTALLY using that one all next week. Genius.
See you at CybHer
x
May 10th, 2012 at 10:08 pm
I do could’ve written this myself! Good on you for being brave enough to write it. I’m not quite ready yet! I hope you have a fab weekend with loads of inspiration. Come back with a big f you to all those annoyances x
May 11th, 2012 at 9:53 am
This seems like such a good exercise I’m going to give it a go myself. I’m not one for risking upsetting or annoying people and tend to go with the flow and just bite my tongue. Not today!!!
* stop parking your 2nd car half in front of my house making it difficult for me to squeeze my car in MY space.
* I’m sorry my 6yo kicks his ball ino your garden but please just throw it back. It’s not fair to let your dogs play with it and chew it up!
* I’m fed up of your pathetic excuses of why you don’t have time to return my calls
* I’m fed up of your pathetic excuses of why you havent responded to my texts I’ve sent to both of your mobiles!
* sending me a message on Facebook does not make up for the fact you haven’t called as promised for the last 5 months!
* stop asking me for money
* do I look stupid enough to hand over my bank details to a stranger knocking on my door GO AWAY
* and do not knock on my door at tea time and expect me to listen to your blurb for ten minutes GO AWAY
Phew feel a bit better for that. Thanks Claire that was good therapy, I may just revisit when I need another rant xx
May 13th, 2012 at 7:29 pm
Hugs Hun
it’s good to ‘talk’ – a friend and I used to go out of the office and just swear like crazy – then go back in a whole lot more chilled 
Re the accident claim text – I too PMSL – #boy9 had a text like it the other day & came running to show me how ‘somebody wants to pay you for your accident mum’ – he had a long lesson in spam & junk mail #homeworksorted
The calls & texts I want to receive never come (& you know those that I would love to ‘de-friend’ but don’t have the courage
Stick with those who do (make you happy)
Go suck a strawberry
or has Diva eaten it all up?? 
Xxx
May 13th, 2012 at 7:29 pm
Gosh – just seen how many smilies I put in that post – sorry Hun.
Xxx
May 14th, 2012 at 10:49 am
Well said that lady!